Many women have a very sensitive sense in their romantic relationships. This sense is developed from the wound that they collected from a previous relationship. Instead of letting your partner feel your insecurity, in this article, we will provide several signs that can help you understand if your partner is really into you or if they’re just using you for their benefit.
We want to shed some light on how to determine the real intentions of your partner.
LOVES YOU: HE LOOKED AT YOU ALL THE TIME.
When men are falling in love with you, they will have a special look in their eyes. As songwriters of many romantic songs got it right: the man who is really in love with you, won’t be able to take his eyes off of you. He will watch you with his love eyes, even when you just do some simple things, like cook dinner or put on your coat, he’s probably in love with you.
USES YOU: YOU ARE NOT SPECIAL IN HIS EYES.
The easiest sign that you can realise that you are not special to him is when he constantly compare you with other people. He always points out the good things in other people that you do not have. It feels like you’re no different from any other girl he’s ever been with or from his friends. He does not show you any affection at all as well. And if you feel like you’re just one out of many, he probably just doesn’t care enough to appreciate you.
LOVES YOU: HE DOESN’T FREAK OUT EVEN WHEN YOU EXPECT HIM TO.
Everyone always has at least one dark secrete or something in the past that they do not want to talk to or not very proud of. But instead of freak out, he is still with you, embrace you in his arms, he is probably more into you than you think. A sign of a mature relationship is to embrace all the sides of another person and not just the pleasant ones.
USES YOU: HE MAKES YOU FEEL GUILTY CONSTANTLY.
A mature partner is a person who will try to help you become a better person or sympathy with you when you meet obstacles in your life, rather than make you feel like you are never good enough to do a better thing. If he makes you feel like you seem not to do anything right starting from dealing with problems at work, to choosing food for your cat at the supermarket, it’s time to run away from your relationship. The one who loves you, they will not make you feel guilty when you make a mistake or meet an obstacle.
LOVES YOU: HE KNOWS HOW HIS BEHAVIOUR CAN AFFECT YOU.
A person who loves you will feel fear to make you sad and be careful with every word and behaviour for you. If you notice that your partner is careful with any behaviour and becoming more self-aware in a way so that you won’t get h*rt or disappointed, this is a good sign.
However, a direct conversation will be better if you want him to do something. It will be easier for him to understand you rather than try to read it from your mind.
USES YOU: HE DISAPPEARS ON YOU.
Everyone has personal issues sometimes that force them to change their plan at the last minute. However, if he always bails out at the last moment, it takes him ages to respond to your texts or phone calls, he might not value you as much as you think. The person who truly appreciates you will find a moment to check in with you. You are always in his plan rather than tries to fit you on his schedule when it’s convenient for him.
LOVES YOU: HE NOTICES SMALL DETAILS THAT MAKE YOU HAPPY.
If he cares about every small thing that can make you happy, for example, he remembers your favourite ice cream flavour, a stupid TV-show you watch when you’re sad, or the name of your very first pet, it means that you are important to him. People only remember or notice something important to them. He may care enough to go beyond the stereotypical things like flowers and candy (but we still love them) and engage with you on a more personal level.
USES YOU: HE NEVER TRIES TO COMPROMISE.
As we are two independent individuals in a relationship, we both have our personality. Finding compromises can be hard, especially if your relationship is new but it’s the goal we all should be focused on. If he doesn’t want to give up his “right” to decide everything, it means that he does not respect your opinion and not ready to find the right balance so you’re both happy. You should probably time to escape from such a controlling relationship.
LOVES YOU: HE SHARES EVERYTHING WITH YOU AND EXPECTS YOU DO THE SAME.
To build a strong relationship, we should understand each other well. The best way to build trust is to share your thoughts and feelings. If he’s ready to overcome the fear of rejection and be open with you about his fears and problems, he trusts you and can see a future with you.
USES YOU: HE EMOTIONALLY MANIPULATES YOU.
Similar to try to make you feel guilty all the time, he wants to dominate your emotion all the time, because that makes him feel more powerful. He knows your strengths and weaknesses and tries to manipulate you into doing the things he wants. This type of relationship is unacceptable no matter what. If you notice this sign, it is time to take a step back and assess what’s going on.
LOVES YOU: HE’S READY TO TALK THROUGH PROBLEMS.
Communication is the main key to strengthen your relationship. Who loves you will want to listen to you and want to share with you everything about their life. Although a healthy amount of emotion can be beneficial for resolving conflicts and keeping your partner happy, screaming won’t solve the problem. After you are both done being emotional, your partner should be ready to have a conversation to talk things over.
USES YOU: HE PROVOKES YOU TO MAKE PUBLIC SCENES OR STAYS SILENT FOR DAYS.
A man who truly loves you would never h*rt you. We feel down sometimes and need someone who can understand our situations. But if your man would publicly humiliate you. These behaviours can be a sign of emotional manipulation, an inability to control their emotions or even a form of “punishment” for the things you’ve done wrong. If that happens, you’d better run away from this relationship.
Have you ever been in a situation where you felt like you’ve been played by your partner? What were the signs? Share your story in the comments.